When You Choose To Be Alone Out Of Fear

There are some women out here who simply rather not deal with the trials and tribulations of getting to know a new man. It's just too difficult. And it leaves you quite vulnerable to the risks of heartbreak.

But there really is truth in all the cliches about living a life in fear. It is no life at all. Because most people are wishing that they could take the risks and make the decisions that people do everyday - people who are living life and taking chances.

The author of A Million Little Pieces, James Frey, mentioned on Oprah how he rather deal with physical pain then deal with the pain of heartbreak. That was a powerful statement - but the reality of his life is that he has learned how to face all of his fears, both physical and emotional. And it was the key to saving his life.

And it's the key to living your life as well. Take 15 minutes today and write a list of your 5 biggest fears. Ones that stop you from evolving in any part of your life. They could be a fear of spiders or they could be a fear of sounding silly to someone - so you say nothing at all.

• Whatever they are - write them down.
• Pick one.
• Make a decision to face that fear.
• Give yourself a goal of when to face it.
• Begin trying a little each day.

You can begin by looking at pictures of spiders in a National Geographic Magazine:) Or you can begin by talking to the neighbor who you never say more than hello to.

Don't let fear stop you from meeting someone special. You could really be missing out.

-GirlShrink

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I want to be married...I want to be single!

Isn't it funny? I talked to an old friend of mine today who was recently married. She's been having a tough first year and admitted that perhaps she romanticized this whole notion of marriage. Of setting time tables for herself.

- Married by 30.
- Kid by 33
- Second kid by 35 etc.

That's not to say that she isn't madly in love with her husband - she is. But marriage is certainly not the utopia that she thought it would be. Marriage is hard work. Loving each other is easy. Liking each other is not:)

I know - I know - the grass is always greener on the other side.

But you ladies on a mission to marry...listen to your married sisters. Marriage is not going to save you from your boring life. Challenging life. Tough life. Don't look to it to be the thing to make everything okay.

And you ladies who are married...stop dreaming about those glory years during and after age 21! Marriage should not mark the end of your glory days. Just of your irresponsible drunken nights:)

Would you want to be back in those other shoes again? Waiting for Mr. Right? Waiting for the ring. Planning the wedding that everyone wanted a say in? Aren't you glad you're past all that? Before you start envying the old days. Look at your marriage. Look at your family. Isn't it worth it?

-GirlShrink

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Kiss Your Lover Goodbye

Do you kiss your lover, your partner, or your spouse goodbye everyday?

Do I have to say why?

You just never know what the future holds. Hurricanes. Terrorism.

The world is an uncertain place.

Kiss your man goodbye everyday and be sure of one thing,

that no matter what the rest of the day holds,

his last interaction with you was one left on a positive and loving note.

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