There is a conspiracy going on in many of the marriages and serious relationships of the day. No sex. I know you've heard all the cliches. No sex after you get married. But really...what they should say is that the sex truly can diminish after having children and being consumed with the stressors of raising them, feeding them, and schooling them!
I mean who really has the energy or the gumption to look sexy, feel sexy, and better yet have sex!
Well, if you want to live in reality - eventually you have to address this ladies. Married folks have sex. And should enjoy it. And hopefully desire it on a well...at least semi-regular basis:)
First - if you have a diminished desire for sex, go see your physician and check yourself out. Hormone levels fluctuate. Having children can throw you out of wack. Make sure it isn't a physical problem. Simply state - if you can't get aroused, even after a round of foreplay, there may be something physical going on. Check it out.
Second - If you check out okay, then we know it's something mental/emotional.
Are you tired? Mentally tired? Tired of him? Is he still attractive to you or is he just a warm body? Do you feel unattractive? Do you think he feels you are unattractive? Have either of you cheated in the past - and know about it? Is sex boring? A ritualistic rut?
Can you think of other things that might be going on? Hey, let's talk about 'em.
-GirlShrink
http://www.girlshrink.com
