Would You Date Someone 20 Years Older or Younger?

There are several famous couples who have done it with great success. And thousands more in the "real world" who have done it as well...

What is it?

Dating someone 20 years older or younger.

Does it work? What are the obstacles? Is it really a big deal or no deal at all?

We talked about this topic in the most recent issue of my relationship newsletter - The Better Choices Ezine. Have you subscribed yet? (Go to the pink box to the right:)

What are your thoughts on these types of relationships? Do you have any personal experience of success or failure?


Let's get real...

14 comments:

patricia said...

I am a 50 yr. old divorcee... been divorced for 15 years. Although I have dated a couple of men that were no more than 2 years younger than me.. .it's just not my thing. However, there is a gentleman in my life, that I met online 4 years ago.. He will be 64 years old this coming Friday. We live 250 miles apart... and yes.. we have met. He is the most compassionate, sensual, loving person anyone could ever ask for. We are not in a committed relationship...and I do date other men.. most of them are in the 55-60 year old range. Jim (64) is the most attentive, active one of all the men I have dated.. and you know what... I'd marry the man tomorrow... Couldn't love him anymore if he lived next door and was the same age or close to mine. So I say "Go for it!" If dating someone 20 years younger makes you happy... you go girl.. and for me... the more mature men float my boat.... I'm just waiting for him to come to the dock... then I'm boarding that baby doll!

Love your column! You have set this gal straight many times... Thanks a bunch!

Lisa Angelettie MSW said...

I hear you Patricia! I hope things work out with Jim. If you can -- make it happen:)

Much Success!

bukkyodumade said...

i can date a guy that is 20years older but not 20years younger.I cant just imagine myself doing that.Fine age is a number but it matters at time,a guy thatis 20years younger than a lady is sure of cheating on the lady,i mean will go after younger girls later in the relationship.

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Heath said...

There will be a problem in physical intimacy in such a relationship...it would require a lot of mental preparedness.

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Looking for short term or long term relationship to the opposite sex you must be trust yourself and ask anything about him. Make sure you love him when it comes to relationship. You may stick to one person and understand her or him vice versa. Show your feelings, give your time so that your relationship will last. When it comes to relationship, age doesn’t matter but if its up to you if you fight your love/feelings to him.

jenny said...

Currently, I am dating a man who is 20 years older than me and as far things go, everything is doing well hopefully this online dating relationship we had will be a success. They said love comes all forms and size but I think it depends upon individual's preference, because dating someone who is 20 years younger for me is not just my cup of coffee.

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it doesn't really matter as long as there is chemistry!
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donat said...

I'm 27yr old dating a guy that is 47. He is married and seperated from his wife for over a lil year. We lives together I helped him get his truck and pay the down payment. He told me he love me and in love with me. Part of me trust him and part not because his son is in jail and he hide from me that he and his son mom drove together to the jail to visit him. It makes me uncomfortable and i talk to him about it. He say he is not doing any thing wrong but then there's just that feeling and I dont know how to go about it.

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